I will admit that my divorce is basically assured and I do not remember who recommended this book to me, but I am glad that I read it. The only real presupposition in this book is that both parties are Christian. Other than that, it does not focus on who did what or who is really at fault. Instead it encourages both people to look at their own lives and search for their own inadequacies.

The book also encouraged me to look at how I am spending this “limbo” time. Am I using my time to foster anger and bitterness or am I using it to develop my relationship with God? Do I justify ungodly actions or thoughts? I did not do any of the end of chapter exercises in depth, but I did read through them and think about them. So, while I do not think my own marriage will be saved, I found this book to be personally enlightening.

One of the things I really appreciated about the book was the honesty of it. Chapman does not insist that his advice will save the marriage. He states that God can restore individuals and heal marriages if those involved are willing to approach is biblically but we are sinners and do not always do that. Marriage takes work and forgiveness. Trouble will occur but it can be overcome. There is hope for those who want it.